Saturdays Book Review- Tell Me Again About the Night I was Born

Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born

For the last 2 Saturdays Loving Well Living Well has featured two of favorite books, A Gift for Little Tree and Over the Moon. Each of these books have a beauty and a depth that are worth the time.

Since the reviews have been all positive, we want to give some feedback on a book, which is not a favorite. There is nothing ethically wrong with this book, but it lacks the sweetness and the depth that many other books have. Below are the Pros and cons.

Pro: It is clear in the story how excited and nervous the parents are to meet their baby. This is always important. There is also an entertaining picture of a life size baby in the fold out of in the book which is amusing. This story can certainly be used as a tool to help a child embrace their adoption story. I did mention that it is not my favorite book but that does not mean it is not worth the read.

Con: This book lacks a depth that I feel the first two Saturday Featured Books have. There is one part in particular that I do not appreciate. “Tell me again how you could’t grown a baby in your tummy, so another woman who was too young to take care of me was growing me and she would be my birth  mother, and you would adopt me.” 

I feel like I need to take a second to dissect specific phrase and what I like and don’t like about it. First, anything that helps a child understand their birth mother and their parents is helpful. However there are a few things that I do not love about this particular way of describing the situation.  I keep asking myself, Why does the child need to first know that her parents couldn’t grow a baby in their tummy and that is why they chose her? Could that lead to him/her feeling like they are second best? Like they are a Plan B? Sure, infertility is a large reason why many couples look to adoption, and that is okay, but I don’t know if a tiny child (say 3 -8 years old, which is who this book is designed for) needs to digest that yet. Also, this particular child’s birth mom may have been young, but just because a young girl gets pregnant doesn’t mean she cannot parent, so the real reason is that she wasn’t able to parent at that time. Many babies are placed for adoption for other reasons than the age of their birth mom, so if that is not specifically your child’s story it could be misleading.

 

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